Anonymous said: I'm 21 and I finally got into my dream university to get a masters degree. the thing is it is in England, I've wanted to move to England since I was like 11, so this is a pretty big deal. I was super excited, and I told my boyfriend, he didn't react very enthusiastically (I wasn't expecting him to, since we live in Toronto, which is VERY far away from England...) anyway, he got pissed and hit me, so I broke up with him. Now I found out I'm pregnant, my parents are extremely conservative HELP

I am glad that you broke up with your boyfriend - no one ever has the right to abuse you. You deserve better.

What choice are you most leaning towards? You ultimately need to do what is best for you. Not your parents, not your ex-boyfriend. You. 

If you are concerned about money, if you are thinking of abortion, there are plenty of abortion funds that exist! I would look up ones for your area. Also discuss your situation with a clinic, they may be able to help as well.

- Emily.

Anonymous said: I just spent the last hour debating w my EXTREMELY pro life cousin and it was the first time I have ever spoken up in real life for my beliefs and let me tell u. I was on fire. I talked abt bodily autonomy and all that jazz and at the end I was like "call me a nut but I would much rather have a pregnant person get an abortion than have them unwillingly go through with a pregnancy only to raise a kid she cannot afford, care for, or simply does not want." his face got red and he was speechless.

Awesome! Good for you. (:

- Emily.

Anonymous said: I personally support someone's right to have an abortion. I just never would have one. Never. I study embryology at school and I see the little tiny humans and it'd break my heart to end their life. If I couldn't take care of them I'd give them up for adoption. I know it makes me sound like I'm weird or something. But I just couldn't kill another human being. Please respect my opinion.

I respect the fact that you would never choose abortion for yourself. That’s what pro-choice supports - the right to choose for yourself. 

That being said, messages like this tend to perpetuate the negative stigma and shame that surrounds the procedure. Language like “but I just couldn’t kill another human being” is emotionally manipulative and a bit inaccurate. 

I get it. There can be a lot of emotions attached to the abortion procedure - we’re here to make people feel better about their choices, not make them think they’ve killed a person.

- Emily.

Anonymous said: Sometimes being on Facebook is really hard. Many of my acquaintances and family members are pro-lifers and so I end up with at least two anti-abortion posts on my feed a day. It's really stressful and hurtful because none of them know I had an abortion, and I don't know how they would treat me if they ever found out

Yeah, I definitely get that - I post a lot about feminism and pro-choice related things which eventually lead to all of the people who didn’t agree deleting me. Maybe it would be good for you if you unfollowed them? You don’t have to outright delete them, but you won’t have to see their posts either!

Regardless, your choices are your own. They don’t understand the fact that you needed it, and at the end of the day, their opinions don’t matter. <3

- Emily.


a year ago today I made the decision to have an abortion and leave my abuser and if it wasn’t for that, I would probably be dead now and sometimes I wonder of anti choice people realize that barring access to abortion is a death sentence for some of us

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If you have problems with the fact that I had an abortion, I feel bad for you son, I got 99 problems and my abortion ain’t one. - Paige

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I had an abortion in April of this year. My reasons are valid and my business. It wasn’t a traumatic experience. It wasn’t depressing or painful. I do not regret it at all. I’m actually kind of glad I did it. I feel relief whenever I think of it and now I’m taking the proper steps to prevent it from happening again. I want others to know that abortion is not scary or horrible or murder. Sometimes it’s necessary and making that choice is YOUR decision and no one else’s. Fuck everyone else. Do what’s best for YOU.


I know two women who had an abortion simply because they didn’t want to have a child with the men they were with but went on to have another kid with men they loved. Abortion and parenthood are choices. Speak up, be loud, choose choice.

Anonymous said: " umm I never even followed you in the first place, HA" like...what? Ok.....Lol this person sounds very immature

I was mostly entertained because that just means they were taking the time to visit this blog, apparently get outraged, and then send annoying messages. 

- Emily.


You are not a bad person for getting abortion, it doesn’t matter if:

  • you were assaulted
  • your birth control failed
  • you weren’t on birth control at all
  • there is a medical issue
  • you don’t want children
  • you already have children and can’t handle another
  • you aren’t ready
  • you don’t want to be pregnant

You are never a bad person for needing an abortion. There is nothing wrong with you. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

You are not alone.

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